Saudi Scholar Abdulhamid A. Abusulayman recently published a paper (also attached) that draws the same conclusion as Dr. Laleh Bakhtiar on the 4:34 verse containing the daraba verb, which is misunderstood by some husbands to justify the infliction of psychological and physical pain toward their wives.
The article is located at: http://www.theghouseteam.com/mg/WMC_Files/Marital_Final_Text[1].pdf
or www.WorldMuslmiCongress.com
Thanks to Daisy Khan for sharing this article.